Recently one of my clients expressed an apprehension to look forward to anything with eager anticipation, or visualize her ideal outcome for fear the actual outcome will fall short of her desire and disappoint her. She is certainly not alone! I mean, why get your hopes up just to have them dashed?
Actually, many of my clients, family and friends have expressed these same kind of thoughts. They are afraid to imagine the outcome they desire for fear it will not manifest, and then they will feel a sense of loss or disappointment. Yet, some of them also seem perfectly happy to imagine the WORST that might happen. They invest time and energy worrying what might happen, what could go wrong, what others might think. The stark image of whatever they are imagining failure looks like is vivid as a movie screen in their minds.
This kind of imagining allows us to feel the exact emotions we are afraid we might feel if we envision success and don’t achieve it! We actually practice feeling the emotions we want to avoid like guilt, anxiety, grief or disappointment in advance. Instead of avoiding them, we create them, perpetuate them, and cling to them.
It’s the story we’re telling in our head causing the emotions, right?
Because the thing we are fearing or dreading is still in the future! Hasn’t even happened yet, but we are willing to mold this incredible energy-draining story around it that ends in disappointment and failure.
How much does this resonate for you? Sound familiar at all? If it does, you are not alone!
What would shift for you if instead of following the storyline to the worst possible conclusion, you allowed yourself to follow the storyline to the most beautiful outcome you can imagine?
Stick with me for a minute, because I can still feel your energy protesting that if you imagine that beautiful image, and don’t get your imagined outcome, your heart will break and you will be forced to endure heartache and disappointment.
Did you see that catch 22? By avoiding imagining positive outcomes in order to avoid disappointment, we instantly create disappointment. Crazy, right?
The key then is to follow the storyline you are creating in your head to the BEST outcome you can imagine, then don’t attach yourself to the outcome.
Allow yourself to dream the biggest dream you have – and feel the satisfaction, joy, and fulfillment of standing in the moment of achieving it – and then remember that yours is only one scenario in a million possibilities. The Universe may have something even BETTER in mind for us than anything we can dream.
Often we identify what we want, but instead of continuing to focus on WHAT we want, we try to figure out HOW to get it, and that’s where we get sideways.
Imagining the moment of achieving your dream and allowing yourself to feel the satisfaction of it, tells the Universe you are ‘open to THIS please’ and things that feel like THIS. Then your energetic frequency is vibrating in harmony with what you want, and the Law of Attraction brings you things that match your vibration.
The trick is to imagine the best possible outcome we can, and then:
1) realize that it’s NOT the (lover, home, job, whatever) that we desire. It’s the way the (lover, home, job, whatever) makes us FEEL that we truly desire.
2) remember that the Universe can imagine INFINITELY more ways to make us feel that way than we can. Certainly more than the one scenario we created in our mind.
This FREES us from attachment to any outcome.
And it’s certainly more FUN than just not thinking about what you would LOVE to create (today, next week, next year, in 5 years, ten…) because you don’t know HOW it’s going to happen for you. Just imagine you WILL get to feel the way you truly want to feel. And if you are envisioning it and vibrating what it feels like to receive it, you are already feeling what you truly want to feel!
Envisioning the outcome we desire is a great way to speed up manifesting that desire – like a supercharge. If we don’t allow ourselves the pleasure of envisioning that manifestation, we slow the rate at which our desire can manifest. But once you put the energy out there, be open to however the Universe chooses to deliver your desire!
Sit back, chill out, and allow the Universe to surprise and delight you!
What do you most want to manifest?
How will you feel when you manifest your desire?
How do you feel when you think about achieving that desire?
How possible is it to let go of the outcome and trust that the Universe is delivering that or something better?
Which feels better to you; reciting the mantra, “I will win the lotto this weekend!” or one of the two affirmations below? Why?
Embracing positive expectations, and letting go of attachment to outcomes is something I help my clients do every day.
If you need some help sorting out the specifics of your expectations and attachments, schedule a free 20 minute chat with me and walk away with at least one actionable step to help you move toward whatever you truly desire!