Stand Up Straight!

Hello Dear Readers!

Just a quick post today inspired by a simple question:

Do bones hold up muscles or do muscles hold up bones?

I’ll give you a minute to consider the question.

I was walking up a hill one day when I realized how tired my back was.
I had that achy, mid back burning feeling, and it felt like my legs were carrying a LOT more than my own body weight up that hill. I was kinda struggling and it wasn’t even a very big hill!

I asked myself WHY it felt so hard, and my inner voice whispered, “poor posture.” My inner voice is never wrong, so I stopped to correct my posture. For some reason I suddenly envisioned myself as a puppet supported by strings, and allowed myself to be pulled upright into proper postural alignment.

As I continued uphill, my legs no longer felt like they were doing ALL the work! It actually felt as if my upper body was helping carry my lower body up the hill. I allowed myself to play with the idea through the rest of that hike. I felt the sensation of letting my bones carry me uphill, then aligned my posture and let the muscles carry my bones up the hill with much less effort!

I don’t know about you, but I usually ALWAYS enjoy easy over challenging, so now I take the time to align. You can too! Save your energy and reduce the fatigue you feel by day’s end. How? With one simple postural correction.

SIMPLE Posture Correction

Lift your sternum.

That’s it. That’s my big tip!

I’ll let the crazy lady in the three-minute video explain.
(Crazy AWESOME!)

What helped most for you: the visual or the sound effects? Let me know in the comments!

Proper posture allows us to feel more energized!

The answer to the question is our muscles hold our bones up. The skeleton falls to pieces on the ground without something to hang on. Proper muscular alignment is required to align the bones to get the most leverage from movement.

Stand up straight to reenergize!

No matter where we are – at the office, bent over a desk or a steering wheel, standing in line – we can lift the sternum to align the posture to reclaim our energy. Post sticky notes around to remind you until standing/sitting up straight becomes a healthy habit!

Empowerment takes Practice

I am honored to work with amazing, powerful women.  My clients are shining examples every day that self doubt can be banished, confidence can be increased, dreams can be manifested.

It doesn’t happen overnight or at the wave of a magic wand.  It’s a process.  As we awaken to Universal Truth, we understand that we want to grow personally and spiritually.  We set goals and intentions for that growth, and we move in that general direction.

Sometimes we “forget our healthy intentions” and sort of fall back asleep, or lose consciousness again, and go back to habitual patterns without even recognizing what we’re doing.  Then something comes along and reminds us of Truth, and we begin moving in the general direction of our new goals once again.

So we awaken and grow toward the light, then fall asleep a bit and forget, then we awaken and grow, and the cycle repeats.

The important thing to remember is that this is a normal cycle.

If you get to the part where you awaken, and you realize that you have fallen asleep on your healthy intentions, accept that as a normal part of the process, and as quickly as you can, begin moving back toward your goals.

The piece that trips most of us up is that when we realize we fell asleep, we waste precious energy in one of two ways:

1) we beat ourselves up for being at this normal part of the cycle and judge ourselves ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ for ‘forgetting’ our own healthy intentions.

2) we stop to wonder what went wrong, why we ALWAYS do this (old behavior) instead of sticking to the healthy intention, we feel confused by our own behavior and unsure how to move forward, since it’s “just going to happen again…”

KEY Ingredient: When we wake up, we can choose to SKIP both of those options and simply course correct our behavior back in line with our goals.

I had this conversation with two coaching clients and one massage client over the weekend, so if you recognize yourself in this scenario, you are not alone!  This was something that used to trip me up ALL the time!  I have always been on a path of self-improvement, and I am slowly but steadily making progress along my path.  But it was only after YEARS of beating myself up for being too something or not enough something else that I finally learned that if I SKIPPED that part, I felt more confident and light hearted as I refocus on the goal, which means I instantly have more energy than if I drain myself unnecessarily.

One of the reasons I became a coach was to empower women to release the toxic shame and guilt and ‘not-enoughness’ with which our culture wants us to identify.  There is no shame in being human.  You are exactly where you are supposed to be in this process.  Why?  Because You – eternal You – chose these lessons carefully before you came into this life.  To learn the lessons, we must awaken to Universal Truth.  And that is a process.  You are precisely where you meant to be.  Why are you meant to be here?  That is for you to awaken to discover.  Open your eyes and look around.  What gifts can you find in each moment?  What personal growth can you glean from each opportunity (challenge)?

You can expect to fall asleep again from time to time.

One of my clients asked me HOW to lengthen the space of time when we are awake and consciously choosing.  GREAT question! 

You focus on raising your vibration.  You engage in activities that excite and delight you (and your inner child!).  You listen to speakers who have a powerful grasp of confidence and connecting to your own inner power.  You hang out with friends that raise your vibe and your consciousness.  You read books that remind you of your true value, your inherent power, your innate GREATNESS, and your unlimited potential.

You begin to absorb those vibes like a sponge until you are saturated with worthiness!

Do something every day to stay connected to that vibe of energized thriving through consciously choosing well-being, and going with the flow of abundance!

Here are a list of just a few of my favorite authors/books to empower your life and inspire your vibration!

Books:

Here is a link to an older blog post with MORE suggestions on raising your vibration.

Don’t limit yourself to my choices! Find voices that speak to your soul!

Leave links to your faves in the comments here so we can all get high vibes together!

Self-Acceptance is Key

Why the FUCK does our culture teach women to loathe themselves?

Pardon my sailor mouth, but shining the light on our own Divine worthiness is one of the main reasons I became a coach and I am quite passionate that every woman learn her own intrinsic value!

If we loathe ourselves, it’s easier for the patriarchy to control us. Who will stand up and say, “We deserve better treatment,” when we believe we deserve nothing? When we believe we are unworthy, or less worthy than those around us, we are easy to control, and push around.

When people realize their value, we are more likely to stand up for ourselves, demand equal pay, point out unfair treatment, and refuse to tolerate discrimination.

I wish I had a dime for every friend and client who chooses self-loathing over self-love, or caring for others over self-care!

Nine times out of ten the thing keeping my client from reaching their goals is a lack of self-acceptance and self-care. I see it every day and I strive, to help other women realize that they deserve as much love and care as they give to everyone else! Self-love is what saved me from depression and inaction. Self-acceptance came only after I offered myself the love I was giving everyone else, and remembered my own essential value.

Those we love are no more valuable or more worthy than self.

The person you adore and will do ANYTHING for, no matter what, is ONLY as deserving of love and abundance as you are.

The person you adore and will do ANYTHING for, no matter what, COULD BE YOU, if you allow it to be.

What in your world will shift when you shift your thinking around
self-worth?

What will you be capable of when you accept how capable you are?

How will others see you if you choose to see yourself as a valuable human who deserves love, praise, abundance, health, wealth, support, and acceptance from yourself and the world at large?

What part of you is talking when you think that you don’t deserve all that and more?

Why do you feel so disconnected when you label yourself unworthy or less worthy than others?

Normally as a coach, I don’t answer the questions I pose, but I will answer that last one.

The human spirit is literally a piece of Divine grace instilled into us on our very first breath; a piece of God, if you will. Through this grace, we are eternally connected to Source, or God energy. This connection is where our power comes from – Source energy (the very same energy that created the Universe and stars)!

When we think thoughts that Source knows are not true, we feel disconnected or separated from that power. (We are never truly disconnected but it feels like we’re being pulled apart.) Pulling ourselves away from the viewpoint, or vibration of Source is what feels so WRONG, depresses our energy, and decreases our power. In fact, consistently choosing thoughts that do not align with Source makes us feel powerless.

Aligning ourselves with the viewpoint of Source allows us to feel powerful, connected, tuned-in, tapped-in, turned-on, and unstoppable!

From the viewpoint of Source, you are God. You are an infinite being without limitations, worthy of all the abundant health, wealth and love that is available in the Universe! You are Divine, and perfect in your imperfection. You are not broken. you do not need fixing. There is nothing wrong with you or where you are!
— If you are thinking “of COURSE there is something wrong with me,” – How does that thought feel? Does it twist your tummy into a knot? That’s a sure sign that you are thinking thoughts that Source knows are NOT true, so the thought literally pulls your energy apart.

All we need to do to feel love and acceptance is love and accept ourselves!

photo by Dani Navarro

Give yourself some grace!

Don’t take my word for it, try it for yourself!
Take a minute or ten every day to try on some self love!

Be gracious and allow yourself to believe that you are as worthy as your children, your partner, your boss, your mentor. Practice affirming out loud how worthy and deserving you are. If you are afraid others will judge you for loving yourself, practice out of their view, when you are home alone with your dog. (Dog loves as unconditionally as God!)

Do something special for yourself. Buy yourself a present you wish someone else would buy for you! Plan a mini vacation to recharge your own batteries. What is something you used to be passionate about but you no longer “have the time to do”? Do that! Schedule some time to do things you love to do! Create art. Take a music class, a cooking class, a nutrition class, or a dance class! Whatever inspires you or lifts your energy. Do THAT for no reason other than it inspires you and lifts your energy!

How does that feel?

It might feel uncomfortable at first as most new behaviors will, but under that, how do you feel? Valued? Honored? Accepted? Connected? Worthy?

Practice your worth. Value yourself. Allow yourself to FEEL those feelings of love and worthiness. If it doesn’t feel natural, remind yourself that this is new, and will take some time to get used to.

Here are some more thoughts to move your vibration toward self-love, self-care, and radical self-acceptance.

Make your own sunshine!

Download the images with sayings that resonate and practice saying them aloud. Make them part of your vibration and part of the practice that brings you into alignment with the Universal Truth that you are valuable and worthy, simply by being.

You are fucking awesome!

Don’t Take it Personally

I find it incredibly helpful to remember that what another person says or does, or how another person reacts to what I do or say, has NOTHING to do with me.

Equally, how I receive what another person says or does, has NOTHING to do with them, and has only to do with what’s going on for me.

If I show up for work all shiny, doing my part 110%, happily going about my work, considering the feelings, needs and input of my employees and co-workers, and doing a bang-up job, then someone responds to my cheerful tone in a harsh way, I have 2 choices.

1- I take it personally: I feel bad that someone disapproves of me.
Or possibly disapproves of the way I am doing my job, or doesn’t like something I have done. Maybe they do not appreciate what I am about, or hear what I am trying to say. My feelings are hurt and I feel disrespected. My energy drains out of my soul, depleting me and taking with it any chance I have of staying motivated toward my own self care. I mean REALLY: why bother?

Or:

2- I don’t take it personally: I understand that whatever is going on for them has nothing to do with me, so my mood is my own, and not tossed about by the moods around me, or the mood of the world at large. I can remain cheerful and confident, and retain the full use of my energy, so it’s available to use for whatever I choose.

Each and every time, the choice is mine.

Empowering myself means making the choice for myself. Letting others choose for me drains my energy and disempowers me.

I’m Too Old!

Someone in her 50s recently told me she was too old to begin a fitness program. To which I replied:

Oh HELL no!

You are exactly the right age to accomplish any damn thing you put my mind and energy into!

Here is just a short list of people who prove that age is not a limiting factor, unless the mind chooses to be limited by the belief that age is a limiting factor.

100-Year-Old Woman Sets World Track Record

100-year-old and 102-year-old runners break world records

103-year-old Dancer Eileen Kramer cast as 17-year-old Princess

Success Can Come at Any Age.

96-Year-Old Athlete Smashes Sprinting Records

Superstar athletes over 60

If you don’t try, how will you know what you’re capable of?

Do anything you choose to do, and take it in small achievable steps, that result in sustainable changes.

Don’t Beat Yourself Up!

It’s a familiar story to most of us.  We set a goal. We make a plan to reach the goal.  Something happens that gets in our way of reaching the goal.  We realize we did not achieve what we set out to do.  We beat the crap out of ourselves for our utter, degrading failure.

Sometimes we get carried away and beat ourselves up over not just the current “failure,” but every failure we have failed up until this very disappointing failure of a moment.

Stop it!

You have not failed.  Not once.  Not at anything!  You have gathered evidence.  You have learned lessons.  You have not failed.

You have discovered a path that does not lead where you thought you wanted to go.  What do you see?  What can you learn?  Is there a new road sign now that you could not see before?  Your journey will always bring you right where you need to be to learn the lessons your Soul came to learn.

All we do when we beat up on ourselves for anything is drain our own, precious energy.

I used to do a REALLY good job of beating myself up over not sticking to my eating plan.  Over the years I have adopted many different eating plans, for different reasons (MOSTLY because I was unhappy with the way I looked), that I have stuck to with varying degrees of success.  One misstep was an excuse to fall off a plan I didn’t want to stick with anyway, and beat myself up for the wretched, miserable failure that I obviously was.  

But why stop there?  I was super good at reminding myself of all the other times I had failed miserably, compounding that “I suck” vibe, and really making it my own!

But I was missing the point, and the opportunity. 

Instead of identifying MYSELF as failed, I had the opportunity to stop and observe.  What’s really going on?  Why did I fail to achieve success?  

The old broken record would have me believe I was a failure.  But when I finally had to reject that thought because it felt so NASTY inside me when I thought it (it literally made me feel physically ill), then I began to see that I ‘failed’ at something only when I didn’t really want to achieve it anyway.

I thought I wanted to lose weight so that people would find me attractive.  Our culture promotes physical beauty as something to be valued above most other attributes, so that’s what I wanted; to be accepted by cultural standards.  But since physical attractiveness is not something that I value personally, it was NEVER going to be enough to motivate me to stop eating foods that I love!

I had not failed.  I had attempted a goal I didn’t care about, so I didn’t care if I actually reached it or not.

It’s a vicious cycle.  Attempt a goal to please others.  Fail to reach goal because it’s not YOUR goal and won’t motivate you. Beat yourself up, depleting your energy.  Try again.  Fail to reach a goal that’s not yours.  Beat yourself up, depleting your energy.  Try again.  Fail to reach a goal that’s not yours.  Beat yourself up, depleting your energy.  

Do this long enough and some people don’t have the energy to get up and try again. To break the cycle – first of all, stop beating yourself up!

Think of your self as an airplane.  

As Brian Tracy tells us in his book entitled Flight Plan – The Real Secret of Success, “Life is like an airplane journey. From the time you take off, you will be off course 99% of the time. All airplanes are off course 99% of the time. The purpose and role of the pilot and the avionics is to continually bring the plane back on course so that it arrives on schedule at its destination.”

So, why beat yourself up if being off course is 99% of life?

Set your goals and keep moving toward them.  When you get off course (and you WILL!) just gently course correct and keep moving forward.  This is the most efficient way, the way that saves our energy, and gets us where we want to be faster.

Stopping to beat yourself up is exhausting.  It wastes energy and time and makes us feel crappy. So STOP it.

Admire yourself for simply recognizing your drift! 

Then you get to choose
1) stay with the drift back toward old behaviors, or 
2) course correct back to where you are consciously wanting to go.

When I get of course now, I look for what it was that tripped me up.  I look for the emotion that I was feeling – and usually not wanting to feel – that sent me after ice cream or pizza.   I don’t clobber myself for tripping.  If it was an emotion that tripped me, I tag it as a trigger.  Then I MIGHT see it coming next time, and not trip.  Or it may trip me again.  Then I recognize it, tag it, and choose to correct my course again. It’s a process.

Maybe I recognize that the goal isn’t really something I want, but something I thought I wanted because others wanted it for me, or I thought I was supposed to want it.  In that case I can shift goals, or simply shift the reasons for my goal.

Using my earlier example: I thought I wanted to lose weight so that people would find me attractive, or so I would be attractive by cultural standards.  Actually, I wanted to reduce my weight for a lot of great reasons relating to my health, well-being, and energy levels.  When I was able to shift my focus to those things, the excess weight fell away so fast it made everyone’s heads spin, and scary health issues simply vanished.

No judgement for getting off track.

I am human, so it happens.  Daily.

Instead of wasting time in judgement and blame, I get curious and look for what tripped me up.  Then I know what course corrections I can choose if I want to.

Instead of getting out a big club and draining my own energy into exhausted depression,  I trust the process, and I get better and better at moving toward my goals.  Daily.

Celebrate!

One of the things I preach to my clients is to CELEBRATE every small step on the path toward their goal.  Those steps add up to a journey of transformation, and deserve to be thought about as the BIG deal they are!  

If you’re trying to reduce your weight, and managed to pass up the candy aisle that was your usual haunt at the grocery store?  GO you!  That is an incredible accomplishment!  Celebrate it!  

If you want to increase your physical activity, and you parked farther from the door than usual so you’d get more steps – That’s AWESOME!  Other people TALK about wanting to make changes, but there you are taking action to make it happen!  Celebrate moving in the direction of your goals!!  Woo hoo!!

Celebrations can be anything as big or small as you desire.  Whatever is fun for you that you do to intentionally celebrate moving forward and honor your amazing accomplishment.

Treat yourself to a soothing bath, a pedicure, or an extra 5 minutes in bed in the morning.  Take yourself out to the movies.  Go for a walk!  Whatever feels like a treat to you to honor the accomplishment is perfect.  One of my fave celebrations is to put on some music I love, turn it up loud, and dance wildly for 3-5 minutes!  It’s an exuberant,
joy-filled celebration that imprints into the cells of my body, and also honors my intentions to move more, and add more joy to my life.

actual photo of my exuberance captured by Jeremy

Why celebrate?

One reason it’s important to celebrate our successful steps, no matter how small, is because they are literally the foundation that supports the transformation we desire.  They are what we build on to create the health, wealth, relationships, or career we want.  Another reason is because when people do not make a habit of celebrating small successes, they might forget to celebrate the big ones.

The most important reason to celebrate your successes along the path to your goal is to say to the universal Law of Attraction, “Yes please!  Bring me more of this!”  Energy attracts like energy.  

All that having been said, I am taking my own advice.

I have some BIG news and I want to celebrate!

Today I received an email from the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching.  I am thrilled, overjoyed, and delighted to announce that I am now an iPEC Certified Professional Coach!

I have successfully completed 90 hours of classroom training,
over 50 hours of peer coaching, and more than 150 hours of required classes, seminars, assignments and electives.  I have earned my
ELI-MP certificate, and my CPC certificate from one of the top coaching schools in the world, the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching.

I opened my coaching practice in November and got my first paying client in December.  Seven months later I have seven clients, every one of whom found enough value in their first round of coaching sessions to invest in more coaching sessions.  That validation is a celebration in and of itself!  My clients inspire me daily to do everything I can to continue growing as a coach, and as a human being.

Now I have completed my training and am fully certified! 

If I’m going to be honest here, part of me didn’t believe I could do it at first.  It seemed like SUCH a big goal.  But the most amazing journey unfolded when I simply focused on what I wanted, instead of what might hold me back.  The entire Universe stepped in to dance with me and open doors.

It is my passion, and my life’s purpose to help others discover the infinite possibilities within themselves, and to empower them to achieve whatever they desire.

Yes, there is more I want to accomplish, but I won’t focus on what’s next until I take the time to really savor this incredibly amazing achievement!  I went for it!  And I accomplished it despite my
self-doubts, and a pretty good dose of fear from those gremlin voices telling me that everyone in my coaching class was smarter and more capable than I was.

Now those voices work for ME, and tell me that I am a natural coach, doing a great job, and that my clients appreciate me, and value what I offer.

Go me.  Seriously.  I feel like a rockstar!

I feel amazing, successful, empowered, and unstoppable! That is the gift of coaching.

I plan to celebrate this major goal and life transformation in a really BIG way, by relaxing and enjoying eight FREE nights in Hawaii next month!  

Like seriously, GO me!  Woot!

Positively Uplifting!

Recently a client asked,

“I’ve never tried positive affirmations, and am not sure how that really works. Is it telling yourself positive things while looking at yourself in a mirror? Or is that just a movie cliche?” GREAT question! Thanks so much for asking.

Positive affirmations are powerful tools to help build new neural pathways. In other words, they can help us rewire our brains. Practicing affirmations helps challenge and overcome self-sabotaging, and negative thoughts.

Sometimes the biggest obstacle to getting what we really want is the thoughts we are thinking. Energy attracts like energy, so thoughts attract more thoughts like themselves.

When we chronically have fear-filled thoughts, more fearful thoughts come easily. When we chronically choose thoughts that feel good when we think them, more thoughts like that come easily to us.

We’ve spent a LOT of times thinking our usual thoughts and creating well-worn pathways to more of those thoughts. If we become aware that our thoughts are not serving us and want to change them, it takes practice.

Practice thoughts that feel good!

Choose affirmations that feel good when you say them.

If you say, “Money comes easily to me,” when you are over your head in debt, it’s highly likely that you’ll get a knot in the pit of your stomach that tells you that the thought you are thinking is WRONG. And that’s when something like, “Money is hard to come by,” pops into your head. And that energy attracts more thoughts like that one. So, “money comes easily to me,” might not be the right affirmation.

How does this one resonate?

This feels more true for most people. There is no contradiction here. Now when a habitual thought pops up like, “I don’t have enough,” remind yourself of the NEW thought you are choosing. Tell yourself that the old thought may have been true in the past, but you are now open to receive floods of financial abundance with ease. Repeating the phrase often helps build a new path to better feeling thoughts.

Here is another amazing affirmation that I found in Tosha Silver‘s BRILLIANT book, It’s Not Your Money: How to Live Fully from Divine Abundance. I highly recommend this book to everyone, especially if you are feeling financially challenged!

This affirmation in prayer form felt AMAZING to me when I read it and each time I read it now, something opens in me, and I truly feel more ready to receive all the abundance the Universe wants to deliver!

If an affirmation really resonates, practice it! Write it on sticky notes to remind yourself. Repeat it like a mantra in the shower, or while sitting in traffic.

Some affirmations feed your soul for awhile and then get replaced with others that feel even better or resonate more.

And sometimes an affirmation that does not feel good in one circumstance feels amazing later on. For this reason, I hang on to affirmations with which I would like to resonate, and try them again when my energy is different!

This affirmation does not resonate with many of us. My first reaction to it was, “I wish!” If I had tried using this affirmation then, I would have attracted thoughts that confirmed I was NOT any of these things. But I really WANTED to feel that way about myself, so I hung on to the words for later. Now the words resonate for me on days I am feeling fully confident, not always, but so much more now than before! I choose to fully practice this thought when I am feeling confident and it is resonating. Why?

Because what we think determines how we feel, and the way we feel is the energy that we send out into the Universe. And what we send out in the Universe is what the Universe sends back to us.

Looking yourself in the eyes can help.

If someone won’t look you in the eyes when they talk to you, how much do you trust what they say? Looking yourself in the eyes and telling yourself Truth can help you accept it as true for you, while acting as a powerful reminder. Many people do not see themselves as worthy of self-care even though they might invest huge amounts of energy caring for others. Looking in the mirror to repeat this reminder can be very helpful.

“I am…”

Affirmations that begin with “I am,” are powerful and can be more powerful if you look into your eyes in the mirror while you say them. But if you are not yet comfortable looking at yourself in the eyes, then do it anyway! Look deep into your own eyes and remind yourself of the Truth:

I am worthy of self care.
I am worthy of the same abundant love I offer others.
I am choosing the thoughts I think.
I am an extension of Source energy.
I am valued just for being me.
Life is a process and I am right where I am supposed to be.
I am learning.
I am becoming.

Make a list of your strengths and put “I am” in front of them!

I am kind.
I am caring.
I am loyal.
I am honest.
I am a good friend.

You get the idea.

Create ones that serve your needs.

One of my clients had repeating thought patterns that constantly told her she had screwed things up again, or that she was about to screw things up BIG time! Her affirmation took a while to create, practice, and to resonate fully, but now she says it’s one of the most powerful tools in her toolbox!

It does NOT mean that everything in her life always goes the way she wants, or has planned. It simply means that when things get off track, it doesn’t feel like the end of the world anymore. There is tremendous value in the peace of mind this can bring.

Do NOT practice when you feel bad!

Do not practice affirming if you are hungry, angry, lonely, tired or your energy is otherwise depressed. If you practice saying, “I am a powerful being fueled by Source energy,” when you feel crappy, you attract more of what feels crappy because you don’t (at that moment) feel powerful or fueled by Source.

So, what to do? When you feel crappy is when you really NEED to change those thoughts if your goal is to feel better. What can you affirm in those more challenging moments to shift your energy in the direction of beginning to feel better?

Esther Hicks and Abraham urge us to “go general.” So instead of thinking about the specific problem/solution, focus on general thoughts that feel better than the current stress-inducing ones you are entertaining.

My Inspirations

I just want to give credit where credit is due. Most of my affirmations and my wisdom around positive thoughts and how they affect us have come to me through the work of Esther Hicks, Jill Lebeau, and Tosha Silver. I am eternally filled with overflowing appreciation for these women.

The power is in your thoughts.

You will find affirmations everywhere. Google “positive affirmations’ and you’ll get a million. Here are all of my favorites printed on beautiful photos to help them raise my vibration and stick in my mind easier.

All of my free images can be seen and downloaded here: 
The Art of Positive Thinking

I have over 500, so here is a link to each individual category:
Health & Wellness
Prosperity & Abundance
Inspired by Abraham
Raise Your Vibration
Self-Esteem
Self-Empowerment
Soothe Your Spirit

Becoming Conscious ~ Not Just for Hippies

Becoming conscious simply means becoming aware.  Aware of ourselves, our actions, our motives, and the consequences of our actions.  As we become more aware, we understand MORE, and we judge LESS.  

We judge others every day.  His/her actions are good/bad, right/wrong, stupid/inspiring.

The Truth is there is no good/bad, right/wrong, etc…  People, places, things, situations simply ARE what they are.  Nothing has meaning until we assign it meaning.  And something that looks like the end of the world to one person looks like the first chapter of a new life to someone else!

Humans usually judge themselves far more harshly that we judge others.  If you look in the mirror and “don’t see much in me that’s all that impressive,” you are NOT alone!  Most of my clients struggle to accept themselves as they are, and ‘not liking themselves’ is a reason cited repeatedly by people who seek coaching.

Here’s the REALLY important bit:

It’s NOT your body that needs changing, but your mind.  

Stick with me for a minute, here!

As we become more aware, or conscious, it is because our views or perspectives are becoming more aligned with Source energy.  Source sees everything as good, right, perfect, beneficial.  Everything has a purpose and is right where it is supposed to be.  Every human Soul has a purpose, is good, perfect, beneficial, and right where we are supposed to be.  When we allow our perspective to line up with this Truth of Divine perspective, we feel GOOD in our skin!  We feel powerful, confident, sexy, and capable.

You KNOW these moments in life!  Think of any “peak experience” of your life when you felt lined up, right on track, invincible – moments when you were happiest and full of purpose and joy. We feel glorious when we are connected with Source or aligned with Source perspective.

Why can’t we feel this way every day?

Because we are human, we sometimes get off track and view things from perspectives that are not aligned with Divine perspective.  When we look in the mirror and do NOT like what we see, we are opposing God’s viewpoint, or Divine perspective, and it just does NOT resonate with our natural energy (cause we ARE Source energy), which is why it feels BAD to think opposing thoughts about ourselves.

Let me clarify.

Thinking that you “should” be different in some way pulls your viewpoint away from the viewpoint of Source.  Think of a scale of 1 to 10.  Let’s call 10 the perspective of God, or Source energy.  Source created us in perfection, recognizes our perfection, and holds to the vibration that we are PERFECT just as we are, flaws and all!  So we can call 10 the level of unconditional love.  We are created from Source energy, so our natural vibration is at 10, or unconditional love.  When we move away from that viewpoint it feels bad because we are splitting that energy.

We are One energy with Source (made of Source energy) so if Source is holding a steady, unwavering viewpoint of unconditional love, then we have thoughts NOT aligned with unconditional love – like hating our physical appearance – we feel our own energy split, and that’s what gives us the physical knot in the pit of our stomach that tells us “something’s not right” with that thought I am thinking!

So, if you have a mildly negative thought about yourself, maybe, “I need to lose weight,” it will feel a little bit bad, so we could rate that an 8 on the 10 scale.  But if we have thoughts of shame, hating ourselves for the way we (whatever) then our energy is closer to a 1 on that scale.  If this pattern of thinking is chronic, then it’s a CONSTANT drain on our energy from the time we get up until we go back to sleep at night. 

The farther we get from our natural vibration of unconditional love, the worse we feel in body/mind/spirit, and the less energy we have to focus on what we LOVE doing!

Our culture has trained us out of unconditional love by teaching us to judge and compare all people, things, and situations, instead of accepting each as a part of the whole, important and unique as it is and playing it’s valuable part.

The more we can move our own perspective about ourselves and our world back toward unconditional love, the happier and healthier our lives become!

So how do we shift our vibration?  

If we are currently vibrating closer to shame and self-loathing than we are to self-love, how do we shift our vibration to get things moving back in the natural direction?

The first step is awareness.  If you recognize yourself here, take a nice deep breath and relax!  Know that you’ve already taken the first step, and you are right where you are supposed to be.  You are aware that you want to shift your energy toward more self-love, more active self-care. 

Faith is like any muscle.  It requires training.  If you haven’t used your ‘faith in yourself’ muscle for awhile, here’s what may happen.  We make a decision to change a habitual action that no longer serves us.  We take some action in that direction and we feel our underdeveloped faith muscle give out.  The gremlins instantly jump in with phrases like, “I TOLD you this was too hard.  We shouldn’t even try, never mind.  Let’s just do what we’re USED to because it’s easier!”

All completely normal.

This new path, new thoughts, actions and behaviors take time to learn.  Work the muscle a little each day, and it will get stronger and stronger, until before you know it, you have developed new habits that are more aligned with your own healthy intentions.

Up to this moment, the actions you have taken have netted the results you now have.

If you want different results than you currently have, you can’t get those using the actions that are familiar, and patterns that are well worn.  Take a few steps in a different direction – steps that may have lead others to where you want to go.  Try on that new path, see how it really feels for your life, and remember that if the gremlin voices get nervous and start shrieking in alarm, you are probably on the right path!

And old habits die hard, so you may get knocked back into the old track here and there.  That’s normal, too!

Don’t beat yourself up over it!  We wouldn’t berate a butterfly for not emerging quickly enough from her cocoon.

Training your vibration chronically upward is key, and there are as many ways to do this as there are people!  Find tools that resonate for you.

Things my clients use to uplift their energy include things like nature, journaling, yoga, swimming, hiking, reading inspirational stories, and so MUCH more.  For a short list of activities, books, and speakers that INSPIRE, and help you keep the fire in your soul, follow this link.

And here is a link to my FAVORITE Esther-Abraham recordings on YouTube!  When I fist discovered it I listened to it twice a day until it was absorbed by the cells of my body.  Now I only listen 2-3 times a week, but it ALWAYS lifts my vibration!

We are waking up from a deep sleep. 

Sometimes we drift off again for a minute longer, then we awaken some more.  It is a process much like giving birth.  It takes time and energy and it will be challenging.  But it will also be rewarding in ways impossible to imagine from the current perspective.  

“How could ANYTHING possibly be worth the effort required to change my thought patterns, and then my eating patterns and then… HOW?  How can I do this?!”  Your mind may scream at you.  But your mind is still wearing blinders that come from thinking that is not aligned with Source. 

We must have faith, and trust the process to get back to aligned thinking.

Don’t cling to lack of confidence or self-loathing because it’s the familiar rut you find yourself in. Find the tools and pathways that allow you to activate more self love, and integrate them into your life.

Becoming more conscious is the key to a more energized life, and the first step toward more health, happiness and prosperity.

Thirteen Thoughts that Exhaust & How to Reframe to Reclaim the Energy they Drain

I am a firm believer that the right wisdom arrives at the right time.  I am constantly discovering books at the exact moment I need their message.  So as I sat at my desk to write this post, I was not surprised when I was inspired to open You are a Badass Every Day, by Jen Sincero, and found this sentence: “What comes out of your mouth comes into your life, so choose your words wisely.” 

I could NOT agree more.  In my eBook, Exhausted to Energized: Three Essential Elements, the element I call our Superpower is to “Reframe the thoughts that are sucking the life out of you.”

Here are thirteen typical thoughts that are sucking the life out of you if you’re thinking them, and how to reframe them to energize your life! These are only suggestions.  Reframe the thoughts into words that resonate for you, so they come naturally to you.

1) I need to lose weight.  

I wrote a whole post on this one because nobody enjoys losing.  Losing goes against the grain.  We strive to win!

2) I should go to the gym.  

Stop should-ing on yourself. 

There are a million things we want to do for a million reasons, but not one of them is something we ‘should’ do.  If you want to go to the gym to align with your healthy intentions, then get off the couch and GO!  But if your only reason to do something is because you feel you should, or someone else is telling you that you should; just don’t do it.

There is shame attached to ‘should.’  

The word suggests that there is something wrong with you if you choose not to do whatever it is that ‘they’ say you ‘should’ be doing.

You could do it.  If you wanted to because it aligns with your intentions.  Then it’s a choice.  You have the power to choose, or choose not to do it – instead of being shamed into doing something that you may or may not want to do.

If energizing your life or improving your body composition is on your to-do list, then going to the gym is one possibility in a long list of possibilities that might serve that end.  If going to the gym interests you, explore that!  If you’d rather have your teeth pulled, explore other options!

3) I miss eating… (something I am not eating for health reasons).

If we choose to focus on things that we miss, or want but cannot have, we cause ourselves misery.  When I discovered that I was allergic to my favorite food groups – dairy, sugar, and wheat – I thought my life was OVER because I could no longer eat pizza!  It took some energy to refocus my thoughts, and a lot of help from my coach, but now I focus on foods I love that love me back!  Mangoes and blueberries are every bit as satisfying to my soul as pizza, and so MUCH better for my physical body!

It’s all about where you place your thoughts, how you choose to look at things. I can continue to focus on my desire for pizza and feel miserable because I am denied, or I can focus on my desire to feel healthy and vibrant and feel GREAT because my food options are delicious AND nutritious.

This will take some time and a effort, but you are worth it!  

If you don’t believe me, try it for yourself!  Prove to yourself what the truth is.

4) I can’t do this!

If you believe you can’t, then it’s true.  You can NOT do it.

Tell yourself you can do it!  Even if you don’t know how, YET.  Allow yourself to believe that you are capable enough to find a solution; that you WILL figure it out, and then relax into the knowledge that a solution will present itself.

Telling yourself that you cannot do it severely limits your options, and increases stress.  

5) I’ll start tomorrow.  

It is physically impossible to start anything tomorrow because tomorrow is always in the future.  Reframing this one is simple.  “I’m starting now,” is a beautiful substitute, or “This is the moment I start to change my life.”  

Shifting your mindset NOW can be done even if the action steps must be put off a few more hours.  Practice using your power of focus to see the outcome you desire.  Hold the end result in your mind’s eye as a complete vision.  Allow yourself to feel the outcome you have already created.  You KNOW how thrilled you will feel once you are living in the authentic body you have reshaped to meet your own healthy intentions, or once you are holding your complete novel in your hands with your name on the cover, or have successfully transitioned to a profoundly fulfilling career.  

You cannot start tomorrow, so you may as well start today.  Just start living your dreams now.

6) I have to decide!

This was a kind of mantra for me for many years.  Every time the thought popped into my head, I felt my heart rate increase and a sense of DREAD that felt like I would explode if I didn’t decide, or if I picked the wrong choice!

I get to choose.  This reframe is empowering.

Being at choice is the greatest power we have.  If you hear the familiar ring of “I have to decide,” running through your head, gently remind yourself that you have the power to choose.  

We can’t make a choice that is “wrong” because our choice will either get the result we desire, or new information that allows more options (choices) to be available.

7) I really want to be/do/have (something) but…

Don’t let that big BUT follow you around!

When we name something we want and follow that with statements like “but this is the reality” or “but this is the reason I don’t have that yet,” we slow or STOP progress toward the thing that we want. 

Examples:

I really want to reach my goal weight, but I hate working out!
I really NEED more money, but I’m not qualified for a better job.
I want to meet my true love, but I need to lose weight first!

Picture your statement as a train engine on the track.  When we say “I really want X,” our powerful engine gets moving right away in that direction.  At the “but” in the statement, we place another train on the track moving in the OPPOSITE direction.  

That powerful engine is your energy, focused on what you want and moving in that direction.  Then the other engine pulls your energy in the opposite direction, splitting your energy and focus.  Can you imagine how much longer it will take the train to get anywhere if it has engines pulling both directions on the track?

If all of your energy is moving in one direction, you reach your goal more easily and efficiently.  Split your energy with those “but” statements and you might still reach the goal, but it takes longer, feels harder, and allows you more time along the way to lose interest or give up because the journey is taking too long.

8) I just hate “someone” because they are… (rich, thin, lucky, beautiful, smart, or living something I desperately want for myself…).

Love and BLESS that person for being a shining example of what is possible.  If they can do it, be it, have it, so can you!  You can physically see by their example that it’s possible.  It’s the things that we cannot see that require more energy to create.

9) I’m too tired to do that.

If you are too tired to do something you want to do, then things you do NOT want to do are draining your energy.  If you are too tired to do something you don’t want to do, then this is just an excuse, but your mind HEARS you and responds to your thoughts.

Remember, your mind creates your reality, so if you tell yourself repeatedly that you are tired, guess what?  Yep, you feel tired more often!

You can begin to reframe this one by shifting your intention.

10) When it comes to XYZ, I have NO self control! 
Or – I simply can NOT resist XYZ!

We are literally saying here that something has power over us.  We are handing our power willingly to XYZ.  Why would anyone choose to do that?

Because it’s an easy excuse to do what we want to do anyway.

Period.  In any other situation we fight to keep our power and stay in control, unless we want to do something and shift blame away from ourselves.

Giving away power is an energy drain. 
Keep your power.  Raise your energy.

I have control in every situation.  The choice is always mine.

The word ‘resist’ is tricky, too.  We really cannot resist anything because to resist it we must be focused on it.  Instead of saying, “I can’t resist free candy,” how possible is it to reframe it into something like: “I choose to eat healthy snacks like apples and dates because they align with my powerful intention to regain vital health.”  That feels pretty powerful to me.

Maybe you prefer something simpler, “I eat only the foods on this list,” and then you create a list of foods you LOVE that align with your health goals.

11) Why bother?

Why indeed?  Why do we bother to do anything?  Usually because it has value to us.  So if we are trying to motivate ourselves into doing something, it helps immensely to focus on WHY we are bothering.

“Why bother going to work?  My job is meaningless!  I hate my job.”

Reasons here may include, I need to pay my bills/feed my family.  So “why bother?” could be reframed to support that need/desire like this: “I appreciate the food on my table and roof over our heads.”  Or even more positive energy: “Better things are on their way to me, but until then I am happy to have a job that pays the bills, so I will put my best foot forward every day.”

Any thought that LIFTS your energy rather than depressing it is what you are shooting for. Why bother reframing thoughts that feel sucky?

12) I can’t afford that.

This one is insidious.  Not only will it become self-fulfilling, like “I’m too tired,” but it also renders us powerless, and nothing grates the human soul like being powerless.

Powerless means we have no choice.  When we say “I can’t afford that,” we are saying, “I have no choice.”  And that just FEELS awful.

And most of the time it’s not really true.  When we truly want something we look for funding options.  We allow ourselves to spend birthday money on something frivolous because it’s not meant to pay bills.  We save little bits here and there for something we value.  For big ticket items like a home or an education, we promise to pay for the rest of our lives because we WANT that home or education.

Of course there may be times this statement is true, like if you were shopping for a private jet and only earn $35,000 a year.  But I hear this statement in the grocery store as an excuse not to buy an item less than $5.  And the more you say it, the more true it becomes, so you can see the value in finding a reframe that works instead. 

Saying, “I am not spending my money on that,” is a perfectly valid option.  As are any of these:

I am financially unwilling to make that commitment at this time.
I choose not to buy that right now.
I choose to buy this, and I am going to save for a while to pay for it.
That’s not in my current budget, but if I really want it, I can find a way to afford it.
This hasn’t got enough value for me to invest my money in it.

See how each of those reframes makes it a choice? I could choose that if I wanted to, but I choose not to. What other ways can you choose to say this that keeps your power squarely in your own hands?

13) Why me?  Or more specifically, Why is this happening to me?

Ask yourself,   “What can I learn from this?” Or “Why is this happening FOR me?

Everything shifts.

You get the idea.

If a thought bothers you, or doesn’t feel good, it’s draining your precious, life-force energy.   If you want more energy for the things you enjoy, reframing that thought is a quick, effective method to do just that.

The first step is to simply be aware when a thought is draining your energy.  Then you have the power to choose that thought and allow it to drain you, or reframe it to empower yourself.

The choice always belongs to you.