Don’t Take it Personally

I find it incredibly helpful to remember that what another person says or does, or how another person reacts to what I do or say, has NOTHING to do with me.

Equally, how I receive what another person says or does, has NOTHING to do with them, and has only to do with what’s going on for me.

If I show up for work all shiny, doing my part 110%, happily going about my work, considering the feelings, needs and input of my employees and co-workers, and doing a bang-up job, then someone responds to my cheerful tone in a harsh way, I have 2 choices.

1- I take it personally: I feel bad that someone disapproves of me.
Or possibly disapproves of the way I am doing my job, or doesn’t like something I have done. Maybe they do not appreciate what I am about, or hear what I am trying to say. My feelings are hurt and I feel disrespected. My energy drains out of my soul, depleting me and taking with it any chance I have of staying motivated toward my own self care. I mean REALLY: why bother?

Or:

2- I don’t take it personally: I understand that whatever is going on for them has nothing to do with me, so my mood is my own, and not tossed about by the moods around me, or the mood of the world at large. I can remain cheerful and confident, and retain the full use of my energy, so it’s available to use for whatever I choose.

Each and every time, the choice is mine.

Empowering myself means making the choice for myself. Letting others choose for me drains my energy and disempowers me.

Celebrate!

One of the things I preach to my clients is to CELEBRATE every small step on the path toward their goal.  Those steps add up to a journey of transformation, and deserve to be thought about as the BIG deal they are!  

If you’re trying to reduce your weight, and managed to pass up the candy aisle that was your usual haunt at the grocery store?  GO you!  That is an incredible accomplishment!  Celebrate it!  

If you want to increase your physical activity, and you parked farther from the door than usual so you’d get more steps – That’s AWESOME!  Other people TALK about wanting to make changes, but there you are taking action to make it happen!  Celebrate moving in the direction of your goals!!  Woo hoo!!

Celebrations can be anything as big or small as you desire.  Whatever is fun for you that you do to intentionally celebrate moving forward and honor your amazing accomplishment.

Treat yourself to a soothing bath, a pedicure, or an extra 5 minutes in bed in the morning.  Take yourself out to the movies.  Go for a walk!  Whatever feels like a treat to you to honor the accomplishment is perfect.  One of my fave celebrations is to put on some music I love, turn it up loud, and dance wildly for 3-5 minutes!  It’s an exuberant,
joy-filled celebration that imprints into the cells of my body, and also honors my intentions to move more, and add more joy to my life.

actual photo of my exuberance captured by Jeremy

Why celebrate?

One reason it’s important to celebrate our successful steps, no matter how small, is because they are literally the foundation that supports the transformation we desire.  They are what we build on to create the health, wealth, relationships, or career we want.  Another reason is because when people do not make a habit of celebrating small successes, they might forget to celebrate the big ones.

The most important reason to celebrate your successes along the path to your goal is to say to the universal Law of Attraction, “Yes please!  Bring me more of this!”  Energy attracts like energy.  

All that having been said, I am taking my own advice.

I have some BIG news and I want to celebrate!

Today I received an email from the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching.  I am thrilled, overjoyed, and delighted to announce that I am now an iPEC Certified Professional Coach!

I have successfully completed 90 hours of classroom training,
over 50 hours of peer coaching, and more than 150 hours of required classes, seminars, assignments and electives.  I have earned my
ELI-MP certificate, and my CPC certificate from one of the top coaching schools in the world, the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching.

I opened my coaching practice in November and got my first paying client in December.  Seven months later I have seven clients, every one of whom found enough value in their first round of coaching sessions to invest in more coaching sessions.  That validation is a celebration in and of itself!  My clients inspire me daily to do everything I can to continue growing as a coach, and as a human being.

Now I have completed my training and am fully certified! 

If I’m going to be honest here, part of me didn’t believe I could do it at first.  It seemed like SUCH a big goal.  But the most amazing journey unfolded when I simply focused on what I wanted, instead of what might hold me back.  The entire Universe stepped in to dance with me and open doors.

It is my passion, and my life’s purpose to help others discover the infinite possibilities within themselves, and to empower them to achieve whatever they desire.

Yes, there is more I want to accomplish, but I won’t focus on what’s next until I take the time to really savor this incredibly amazing achievement!  I went for it!  And I accomplished it despite my
self-doubts, and a pretty good dose of fear from those gremlin voices telling me that everyone in my coaching class was smarter and more capable than I was.

Now those voices work for ME, and tell me that I am a natural coach, doing a great job, and that my clients appreciate me, and value what I offer.

Go me.  Seriously.  I feel like a rockstar!

I feel amazing, successful, empowered, and unstoppable! That is the gift of coaching.

I plan to celebrate this major goal and life transformation in a really BIG way, by relaxing and enjoying eight FREE nights in Hawaii next month!  

Like seriously, GO me!  Woot!

Becoming Conscious ~ Not Just for Hippies

Becoming conscious simply means becoming aware.  Aware of ourselves, our actions, our motives, and the consequences of our actions.  As we become more aware, we understand MORE, and we judge LESS.  

We judge others every day.  His/her actions are good/bad, right/wrong, stupid/inspiring.

The Truth is there is no good/bad, right/wrong, etc…  People, places, things, situations simply ARE what they are.  Nothing has meaning until we assign it meaning.  And something that looks like the end of the world to one person looks like the first chapter of a new life to someone else!

Humans usually judge themselves far more harshly that we judge others.  If you look in the mirror and “don’t see much in me that’s all that impressive,” you are NOT alone!  Most of my clients struggle to accept themselves as they are, and ‘not liking themselves’ is a reason cited repeatedly by people who seek coaching.

Here’s the REALLY important bit:

It’s NOT your body that needs changing, but your mind.  

Stick with me for a minute, here!

As we become more aware, or conscious, it is because our views or perspectives are becoming more aligned with Source energy.  Source sees everything as good, right, perfect, beneficial.  Everything has a purpose and is right where it is supposed to be.  Every human Soul has a purpose, is good, perfect, beneficial, and right where we are supposed to be.  When we allow our perspective to line up with this Truth of Divine perspective, we feel GOOD in our skin!  We feel powerful, confident, sexy, and capable.

You KNOW these moments in life!  Think of any “peak experience” of your life when you felt lined up, right on track, invincible – moments when you were happiest and full of purpose and joy. We feel glorious when we are connected with Source or aligned with Source perspective.

Why can’t we feel this way every day?

Because we are human, we sometimes get off track and view things from perspectives that are not aligned with Divine perspective.  When we look in the mirror and do NOT like what we see, we are opposing God’s viewpoint, or Divine perspective, and it just does NOT resonate with our natural energy (cause we ARE Source energy), which is why it feels BAD to think opposing thoughts about ourselves.

Let me clarify.

Thinking that you “should” be different in some way pulls your viewpoint away from the viewpoint of Source.  Think of a scale of 1 to 10.  Let’s call 10 the perspective of God, or Source energy.  Source created us in perfection, recognizes our perfection, and holds to the vibration that we are PERFECT just as we are, flaws and all!  So we can call 10 the level of unconditional love.  We are created from Source energy, so our natural vibration is at 10, or unconditional love.  When we move away from that viewpoint it feels bad because we are splitting that energy.

We are One energy with Source (made of Source energy) so if Source is holding a steady, unwavering viewpoint of unconditional love, then we have thoughts NOT aligned with unconditional love – like hating our physical appearance – we feel our own energy split, and that’s what gives us the physical knot in the pit of our stomach that tells us “something’s not right” with that thought I am thinking!

So, if you have a mildly negative thought about yourself, maybe, “I need to lose weight,” it will feel a little bit bad, so we could rate that an 8 on the 10 scale.  But if we have thoughts of shame, hating ourselves for the way we (whatever) then our energy is closer to a 1 on that scale.  If this pattern of thinking is chronic, then it’s a CONSTANT drain on our energy from the time we get up until we go back to sleep at night. 

The farther we get from our natural vibration of unconditional love, the worse we feel in body/mind/spirit, and the less energy we have to focus on what we LOVE doing!

Our culture has trained us out of unconditional love by teaching us to judge and compare all people, things, and situations, instead of accepting each as a part of the whole, important and unique as it is and playing it’s valuable part.

The more we can move our own perspective about ourselves and our world back toward unconditional love, the happier and healthier our lives become!

So how do we shift our vibration?  

If we are currently vibrating closer to shame and self-loathing than we are to self-love, how do we shift our vibration to get things moving back in the natural direction?

The first step is awareness.  If you recognize yourself here, take a nice deep breath and relax!  Know that you’ve already taken the first step, and you are right where you are supposed to be.  You are aware that you want to shift your energy toward more self-love, more active self-care. 

Faith is like any muscle.  It requires training.  If you haven’t used your ‘faith in yourself’ muscle for awhile, here’s what may happen.  We make a decision to change a habitual action that no longer serves us.  We take some action in that direction and we feel our underdeveloped faith muscle give out.  The gremlins instantly jump in with phrases like, “I TOLD you this was too hard.  We shouldn’t even try, never mind.  Let’s just do what we’re USED to because it’s easier!”

All completely normal.

This new path, new thoughts, actions and behaviors take time to learn.  Work the muscle a little each day, and it will get stronger and stronger, until before you know it, you have developed new habits that are more aligned with your own healthy intentions.

Up to this moment, the actions you have taken have netted the results you now have.

If you want different results than you currently have, you can’t get those using the actions that are familiar, and patterns that are well worn.  Take a few steps in a different direction – steps that may have lead others to where you want to go.  Try on that new path, see how it really feels for your life, and remember that if the gremlin voices get nervous and start shrieking in alarm, you are probably on the right path!

And old habits die hard, so you may get knocked back into the old track here and there.  That’s normal, too!

Don’t beat yourself up over it!  We wouldn’t berate a butterfly for not emerging quickly enough from her cocoon.

Training your vibration chronically upward is key, and there are as many ways to do this as there are people!  Find tools that resonate for you.

Things my clients use to uplift their energy include things like nature, journaling, yoga, swimming, hiking, reading inspirational stories, and so MUCH more.  For a short list of activities, books, and speakers that INSPIRE, and help you keep the fire in your soul, follow this link.

And here is a link to my FAVORITE Esther-Abraham recordings on YouTube!  When I fist discovered it I listened to it twice a day until it was absorbed by the cells of my body.  Now I only listen 2-3 times a week, but it ALWAYS lifts my vibration!

We are waking up from a deep sleep. 

Sometimes we drift off again for a minute longer, then we awaken some more.  It is a process much like giving birth.  It takes time and energy and it will be challenging.  But it will also be rewarding in ways impossible to imagine from the current perspective.  

“How could ANYTHING possibly be worth the effort required to change my thought patterns, and then my eating patterns and then… HOW?  How can I do this?!”  Your mind may scream at you.  But your mind is still wearing blinders that come from thinking that is not aligned with Source. 

We must have faith, and trust the process to get back to aligned thinking.

Don’t cling to lack of confidence or self-loathing because it’s the familiar rut you find yourself in. Find the tools and pathways that allow you to activate more self love, and integrate them into your life.

Becoming more conscious is the key to a more energized life, and the first step toward more health, happiness and prosperity.

Schedule Some Time Off

Hi Everyone!

My apologies for the mini hiatus in my blog, or as I like to call it, my Empowerment Center. I hope you find inspiration here that reminds you that the tremendous power within you flows from the ultimate power in the Universe.

June began for me by attending the final weekend of in-person classes at iPEC, the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching and I embarked on the final assignments to gain my two coaching certifications. I focused tirelessly on completing the work and earned my ELI-MP on Jun 15! Most people have no idea what that is, but that’s a blog for another day. By July 15, I expect to have my CPC and be a Certified Professional Coach.

I am thrilled and delighted to have a fulfilling new career that I am so passionate about. I still very much enjoy my massage practice, and am getting ready to participate in the Vallejo Open Studios in November.

Point Lobos

Bottom line?

I have to remind myself how important it is to take a day off!

Recently, my friend of 45 years came to visit me. We have been planning her trip for months, but when it landed last week, I actually almost felt guilty taking the time off! I have so MUCH on my to-do list, that it felt wrong to shift my focus to “fun.”

Dani & I went kayaking on Monterey Bay!

But life without balance is draining.

No matter how much I adore my careers, if that is ALL that I focus on, my life swings out of balance. We need work that feeds our souls, but we also need days off that feed our souls! I give myself bonus points if my time off includes spending some time outdoors connecting to nature, because I know that is one of the things that really engages my spirit and makes me feel at one with the Universe.

When was the last time you took a day off? Or, if you are ‘off’ every day, when was the last time you planned something fun just for the inspiration of it?

No matter what you do on the daily, give yourself a little break to enjoy a few hours doing something you LOVE, just for the fun of it!

I did drag myself away from all the details of my coaching practice and enjoy three days off last week. Dani & I spent time in Monterey, Pacific Grove, and Point Lobos. We had a gorgeous day to enjoy Point Lobos. Here are a few pics from our hike.

My battery is charged. My cup is overflowing!

I feel so alive and rejuvenated!

I think my hiatus is over, so watch for inspiring, energizing new blog posts coming soon!

There is One Source

Humans have as many names for Source as we have creation stories.  

  • God
  • Goddess
  • Heavenly Father
  • Holy Mother
  • Source 
  • Shakti
  • Allah
  • Supreme Being
  • Eternal Love
  • Infinite Wisdom
  • Divine One
  • Infinite Flow
  • Higher Power

This is a VERY short list. There are myriad more names for the Infinite, and every one of them is as valid as the next if it speaks to you.  God is genderless and cannot be named.  More to the point, God is every gender and present in every expression of life and Love.  Lord Mother is as good a name as Jesus or Buddha or Artemis or Zeus.  Choose language that resonates and opens your heart.  I interchange the pronouns He and She and use a variety of these common names for the Divine in my writing.

I like the term Source or Source Energy because I am a fan of Esther Hicks, and because I talk often about increasing energy in the lives of my clients.  I like the analogy of a Source of energy that we can plug into, because it is so literally TRUE.

When we connect to the Flow, or Source energy, we plug directly into THEE Source of all Universal energy.  That direct connection powers us up like nothing else can!  We are conduits for Source energy and feel at our BEST when we plug into Source and let that energy of pure Love flow though us into the world.

That having been said, any name that resonates for my client is the name I use in their sessions.  I know that our Divine Mother has no care for what name we call Her by, so long as we call on Her.  So if I use the name God and that feels too patriarchal to you, substitute Goddess, or Divine One, or Infinite Love or any other name you feel in your heart.

Just know that I mean the One Source of all things – the energy that creates planets and holds them infinitely spinning in perfect proximity to one another.

Tosha Silver

I am a GREAT believer in promoting all things vibe-raising, and Tosha Silver fills the role of vibe-raiser in such brilliant ways!

“Tosha graduated from Yale with a degree in English Literature but along the way fell madly in love with yogic philosophy. For the past 30 years she’s taught people around the world ways to align with Inner Love.” – from Tosha’s website.

I became aware of Tosha’s books less than a year ago when a dear friend recommended Outrageous Openness to me.  I instantly became a HUGE fan.  Now I read a few pages from one of her books each morning to inspire my day. 

Book Passage

I follow Tosha on Facebook, so Saturday when she posted that she was going to speak at Book Passage on Sunday, I was THRILLED!  I was even more thrilled to discover that my schedule actually allowed me to attend!  I took my fun money and drove across both the Carquinez, and Richmond bridges to one of the most amazing bookstores in the world. 

If you live in the Bay Area, you should plan a field trip to Book Passage, an independently owned bookstore with over 800 events a year!  They have so many classes they are practically a small university.  Book Passage is an amazing place with something for everyone.

It’s Not Your Money

Tosha spoke for half an hour, lighting the room with her energy.  She said her new book, It’s Not Your Money, is not about creating abundance, it’s about being abundance. 

When she took questions for half an hour, one woman who had already read the book, was in tears when she thanked Tosha for the transformation the book had brought to her life. 

Then Tosha signed books, and greeted each of us with that radiant smile. I asked her to sign two copies, one for me and one for a friend that has been between jobs for almost four years.  She looked up and said,”Oh she HAS to read this book!  Can I write that?”

“Yes, please,” I replied.  She inscribed it, ‘To Laura, Read this book! Love, Tosha

She inscribed my book with love as well, and I was left with the feeling of deep connection to myself, my Soul and my creator.

The entire experience was Divine!

If you are not familiar with Tosha’s books, you are in for SUCH a treat!  Any of them are great resources to lift your vibration. Click this link for her author page on Amazon.

If you are familiar with her books, maybe you did not know that she offers many classes and events! Click this link for info on Tosha’s classes.

Either way, Tosha Silver is a treasure, and a valuable resource for anyone that wants to build a stronger connection with the Divine, and live a more inspired life.


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Deeply Centered

Wear your cloak of invincibility.

It is my mission to uplift the vibration of this planet each day I am here! This seven minute recording is my gift to you! It’s a great way to center yourself before beginning anything. What does it mean to center yourself? I like to think of it as gathering my energy around me like a cloak of invincibility.

If you feel anxious, nervous, or anything other than supremely confident, take seven minutes to restore your breathing, raise your vibration, and pull on your cloak of invincibility. I use this exercise first thing every morning, before each session with a new client, and with clients to begin a session any time they arrive feeling frazzled or unfocused. Listen to it here whenever you like.

Breathe deeply at whatever pace is comfortable for you.

Subscribe to my blog and I will send you the download link for this powerful tool so you can use it wherever you are!


Practice Happiness Daily

So – How do you choose happiness (or at least a sense of calm) when chaos is raining down around you? One of my coaching clients posed this very question to me last week. Here’s my short answer:

Practice happiness daily.

Olympic athletes don’t show up on game day to give a peak performance without practicing a few (hundred) times.  To strengthen your faith, you need to practice building faith daily.  To strengthen your ability to choose happiness and increase your overall sense of calm, you need to practice choosing happiness daily.  And you can’t wait until your transmission leaves you stranded with a huge car repair bill and then hope you’ll remember to choose happiness in that moment if you haven’t been choosing it daily.

Practice happiness daily! Choose it every chance you get, and you get myriad chances sprinkled into your days.

What constitutes a happiness practice? 

There are LOTS of options, and it’s different for everyone, so you get to put together the pieces that resonate with you!  You get to choose what to call your daily practice (happiness practice, spiritual practice, faith-building practice), and select the tools that fire you up and make you feel energized and ready to seize your day!

A great place to start is to unfollow anyone and anything on social media that is not adding to your joy and start following people and businesses that do uplift your soul. You can find uplifting vibes at Practice Happiness Daily, along with about a million other choices to lift your vibe and inspire your day. When you focus on what you want, the Universe brings you more of what you want.

One of the ways I practice happiness is reading something uplifting every morning.  My current inspiration is coming from Jen Sincero’s You are a BADASS Every DayJen describes what I am talking about in a much badassier way than I can, so let me quote:

“Strengthening these muscles of badassery is where something I like to call the spiritual gym comes in.  As we travel the winding road to greatness, we’ve got to have some sort of workout routine to keep our motivation strong, our belief in the near impossible unwavering, and our focus firm – because muscles don’t stay strong all by themselves.”  She continues, “Get specific about which practices make you feel like you could bench press a gorilla and make them a nonnegotiable part of every single solitary day with no exceptions.”

I couldn’t agree more! 

Your practice. Your choice.

Despite what religions would have us believe, there is no one right way to connect to Source energy. You get to choose. My morning practice has evolved over time and currently looks like this: five minutes centering, read something uplifting for ten minutes, write a gratitude letter, read it out loud, visualization practice for ten minutes max, core strength & stretching for ten minutes.  Then I like to write in my journal to process whatever I am growing through at the moment. It’s the first hour of my day and sets the tone for my energized and thriving life!

I sprinkle affirmations liberally throughout my day and do something active at least five days a week. One of my friends listens to inspirational podcasts while she runs on the beach in the morning, and another keeps a running gratitude journal throughout the day on an app in her phone. Lots of my friends practice yoga and meditation.

Creating your personalized workout for your ‘spiritual gym,’ consists of playing with any combination of options from the menu below, or myriad others that makes your feel like you could hike the Himalayas.  Or you know, remain calm, centered, and effective while everyone else runs around with their hair on fire.  You could even survive meeting your boyfriend’s parents, or calmly recite all the reasons you deserve a raise to your boss.  Who knows what you’ll achieve if you tap into the infinite power of Source!  Probably whatever you put your mind to.

Feel Free to add other menu items in the comments! 
I would LOVE to hear what energizes your day!

Spiritual Gym Menu – 

  • reading uplifting books
  • subscribe to uplifting blogs like this one
  • centering/meditation ~ Link to my 7-minute recorded meditation
  • write gratitude lists & read them out loud
  • visualization
  • affirmations – Click this link for affirmations on my photographs
  • setting intentions  
  • journaling
  • podcasts or YouTube videos of uplifting speakers
  • breathing in the light, breathing out anything that does not serve you
  • exercise
  • stretching
  • yoga practice

Here are some great ones Sincero’s book added to my list:

  • Making gratitude lists that leave you sobbingly aware of what a miracle your life is.
  • Listening to music that makes you feel like an invincible pillar of joy
  • Ensmartening yourself
  • Making a vision board & staring at it all the time
  • Reading biographies of people who inspire the crap out of you

Some books & speakers that inspire the crap out of me:

Books:

Speakers:

Add your faves in the comments to expand my Universe!

It doesn’t matter what you choose to practice, so long as it uplifts your spirit, plugs your Soul into Source, and inspires you to step into a more powerful version of you!

“Make them a nonnegotiable part of every single solitary day with no exceptions,” so that when those less than optimal moments arrive, you’ll be amazed at how little they affect your vibration, and how easy it is to respond from a place of confidence and clarity.  You get to choose how to show up. 

One option is NOT to practice happiness, and show up like a cork tossed on the raging seas of chaos.  My choice is to practice happiness daily and show up awesome!

Awesome feels better in my opinion, but you get to choose for yourself!

Create an awesome day for yourself and those around you!

Happiness is a Choice

Don’t believe me?  Then you will forever be at the mercy of the whims of the world and whatever they throw at you to set your mood for you.

I believe that happiness is a choice, and I choose happiness every day.  Some days it’s easier to make that choice, no doubt!  Last week when Bekkie and I went to the beach?  Happiness galore!!  Sunshine, crashing surf, sea breezes, healthy food, reliable transportation, and GREAT company all added up to FUN and joy that seeped into my bones, charged my batteries and left me raring to go!

Easy choice.  Happy!

Tuesday I also chose happiness – not as easy, but even more necessary.  I awoke early as usual, felt great, had coffee, and then stood by helplessly as my back went out and crushed my paycheck for the day (for the week, it turns out, maybe more…).  At 7am I called the chiropractor.  She called me back and got me in at 8am.  I managed to get myself across town, though my car was making a very interesting noise that made me think it might join my back in letting go of it’s worldly responsibilities.

My chiropractor did the best she could with an activator and duct tape, and I felt better, but left knowing that I would not be able to give a massage for at least a few days.  On the way home, Lilu, my Chevy Impala, started doing this other interesting thing; after stopping at stop signs it no longer wanted to move forward.  I broke into a cold sweat and my stomach knotted itself into a scarf.

(This is the part where I choose fear, but don’t worry!  Happiness prevails, keep reading!)

My mechanic is closer than my house, so I gently and slowly inched across town, trying not to stop completely because it seemed to be having trouble getting into 1st gear.  When I got to the shop I pulled around with the intention of backing into an empty spot, only to find when I put it in reverse NOTHING happened.  I put her in drive and she didn’t like it.  She hesitated and balked, but finally inched forward off the street, though not parked legally.  I was visibly shaking.

He didn’t have to tell me the transmission was shot.  I can’t even change my own oil and I knew that much.  I sat in the waiting room and took some long deep breaths.

Shifting your breathing is a superpower!  Did you know that?  My joy guru, Jill Lebeau taught me that, and it’s a lesson for which I am tremendously grateful.  So I just breathed while my car guy told me the transmission was shot and a new one costs about twice what I currently have in my piggy bank.  They were giving me a ride home when I started my gratitude list.

  • The mechanic’s car has seat heaters that felt amazing on my throbbing back.
  • The sun was shining and it was going to be a gorgeous day.
  • Lilu didn’t die in Bodega Bay last Thursday and leave Bekkie and I stranded and unable to get Bekkie to work on time.  
  • Lilu died right in front of the only place it was actually convenient and I didn’t have to pay to tow her there.  
  • It happened on the same day that I got my IRS refund.  I had planned to pay bills with my refund, but I did HAVE the money on that day. 
  • He can repair the car and get it back to me by the weekend, Monday at the latest.
  • My back pain is keeping me from my massage practice, but my coaching practice continues!  
  • Last year when I had these same back issues, I had no clear vision of what I would do for income if my body finally said, “NO MORE massage!”  Now I know what my next career is, I am already transitioning, and adding some income from the new source.  That is a BIG chunk of gratitude right there!
  • Lilu died on the same day that my back went out again, so that’s a clear sign from the Universe to STOP and slow down a minute; focus on what’s important.

What is important is my health, and while I have been pretty good about cleaning up my eating, I have not been GREAT.  I can do better and when I do better, the inflammation will cease to create and exacerbate the myriad health issues that continue to challenge me create opportunities for my personal growth.  I had been ‘too busy’ with work to focus on my meal plans, my cardio, my self-care.  So the Universe took matters in Her own hands and slowed me down for a gentle reminder to take care of me first.

Time to let go of what’s holding me back and release the last of the foods that I have been wanting to remove from my body for health’s sake.  No one is telling me I ‘should’ make these changes.  I want better health.  I want to feel energized every day in every way.  My coach and I are moving me toward my ideal goals one baby step at a time and I feel powerful in my choices for better health!

  • So I appreciate the time off to focus on health, and growth, and joy.
  • I appreciate my clients who are always so gracious and understanding when I call to reschedule them.
  • I appreciate my mechanic for getting the job done so quickly.
  • I appreciate the timing of the whole situation, which unfolded with ease.
  • I appreciate that I can choose happiness no matter what’s going on in the world around me.

So – How do you choose happiness (or at least a sense of calm) when chaos is raining down around you? One of my wonderful coaching clients posed this very question to me yesterday.

I look forward to sharing my answer with you in my next post!

Create a happy day!

Here’s a little rant from Abraham and Esther Hicks to set you off in the right direction.

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Carpe Diem!

That is my advice to everyone!  Get out there and seize the day!  Seize your life!  Make the most of every single minute.

My life is crazy hectic right now and I am LOVING every minute of it!

Besides running my full-time massage practice for the 12th year and building my photography business, I am attending iPEC to become a certified life coach and transitioning into an additional career over 50 years old.  I have weekly webinars, coaching assignments, reading assignments, journaling assignments, assignments from my coaches and elective assignments.  I have all the moving parts of building a business from the ground up, like creating the website, the logo, the marketing, and a blog.  I won’t bore you with ALL the details, but suffice to say that 7 days a week I have been keeping at it pretty steady.  Last Wednesday I had 3 massage clients and 3 coaching clients.  I went to work at 8:30am and finished my last coaching call that night at 8pm.

I am not complaining, I am THRIVING!  I am passionate about learning and practicing coaching.  It’s practically like a drug to me, I am just dying to do it again.  And again.

So it’s really easy to let my entire life be absorbed by it.  Jeremy and I even canceled a date day 2 weeks ago because I had something that HAD to get finished! (It was terribly important, though I can’t seem to recall now what it was!). But as fulfilling as all this is for me, the “must-dos” are still edging out the “want-tos” and that’s never healthy.  Occasionally we must come up for air!

Thursday/Friday are my days off and I almost always have those days scheduled as carefully as a work day to get the most done in the most efficient way.  Last Thursday was to be spring cleaning and homework.  I have a list of assignments that can keep me busy till May if I apply myself often enough, and I really like the energy of a sparkling CLEAN home on the first day of spring, scheduled to arrive Wednesday of next week.

But instead of housework and homework on Thursday, my daughter and I seized the sunshine and headed to the beach for a very short respite from the responsibilities in our lives.  She protested when I suggested it, saying she needed to be at work by 3pm.  

I recalled days from her childhood when I would drop her and her brother at school, pick up a friend, head to Bodega Bay, spend a couple hours and be home in time to get them from school.  “I’ll have you back by 2,” I promised.  She was all in.

It was GLORIOUS!  It was only supposed to be 55˚ but it must have been closer to 65˚.  The sun shone bright and the wind stood down.  We stripped to swim suits and were giddy enough on long-absent sunshine, that we actually forded Salmon Creek before we had a chance to realize what a misguided and dangerous idea that was.  We crossed back right away and it didn’t get up over our waists, but truly – our day was Goddess-blessed with safety as well as sunshine and sparkling waves.

It’s a 90 minute drive from Vallejo to Salmon Creek Beach.  We enjoyed a healthy lunch overlooking the ocean.  We hiked in the sand.  We collected shells for my altar.  We stretched out on the sand and let the vitamin D soak into our skin.  I’m sure we mooned more than one passing car as we struggled out of creek-soaked clothes to put on something dry.  We relaxed and absorbed all of that glorious, crashing, thrashing, battery-charging energy!

We had two spontaneous, magnificent hours of complete freedom.

Then we drove 90 minutes home listening to music and singing.  I cannot think of anything that could have lifted me more!

Seize the day!  Do something unexpected.  Grab the chance to have fun with a friend, even if just an hour or two.

Your soul lives for these moments.  These are the moments that nourish you and feed you the strength to get through the next twelve hour day.

If you don’t seize the opportunities to create joy along the way, what on earth are we doing here?!

Enjoy your life every chance you get. Carpe diem!  

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