{"id":3063,"date":"2020-01-08T01:11:37","date_gmt":"2020-01-08T09:11:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cyndicombs.com\/coaching\/?p=3063"},"modified":"2020-07-14T12:59:02","modified_gmt":"2020-07-14T19:59:02","slug":"why-we-give-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cyndicombs.com\/coaching\/2020\/01\/08\/why-we-give-up\/","title":{"rendered":"Why we Give Up\ufeff"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

There is only one reason that we fail, ever.  We fail when we give up.  As long as we haven\u2019t given up, as long as we keep trying a new approach, a different tact, a fresh perspective, our dream is still a possibility!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, why do we give up on our dreams?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

We persist or give up based on our own personal habits, or patterns of action.  If you grew up in a home where persistence was rewarded, it\u2019s likely that you don\u2019t give up easily on your dreams.  You have probably developed habits that keep you moving forward even after what others might see as major setbacks.  If this sounds like you, this post probably won\u2019t hold many insights for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If, on the other hand, you grew up in a home where your parents said they would do something and then didn\u2019t follow through, you may have never learned how to map your way to the goals you are wanting, or plan strategies for the challenges that will arise.  You may have developed the habit of letting yourself off the hook, or making excuses for why you didn\u2019t succeed.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are roadblocks to living your dreams. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reaching our dreams requires changing our actions.  But continuing our habitual actions is always going to be easier than change, because it\u2019s the familiar pathway we have practiced over time, the habits we have built, the thought patterns we\u2019ve entrenched. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s use weight reduction as our example because this is one that millions of people including most of my clients struggle with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most of the time we have a pretty good idea of the types of actions required to reach a goal.  If weight reduction is our goal the list of actions required to support that goal MIGHT include: move our body X minutes per day and X days per week, define a food protocol & check it with your doctor, plan your meals in advance, schedule time to shop for and prep meals, eat less XYZ, increase hydration, eat more produce, eliminate processed sugar, eat more fish, eat less meat.  The list goes on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How many times have you decided to adopt one or more of these healthy behaviors?  How many times did you succeed?  If there were times that you did not succeed, why did you give up?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A change in action is not sustainable unless we also change our thoughts.  <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Most of us give up when we try to adopt a new behavior because a change in action is not sustainable unless we also change our thoughts.  And the thoughts we have practiced up to this point do not support sticking to the goal, or we would have achieved our goal already. Right? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The thoughts we have practiced up to this point support giving up when it gets hard, giving in when we have a craving or something doesn\u2019t go according to plan.  We let ourselves off the hook because we practice thoughts like, \u201cI can start tomorrow.\u201d  \u201cOne cheat won\u2019t hurt.\u201d  \u201cIt\u2019s not my fault.\u201d  By now a lot of us are realizing that thoughts like this are self-defeating and have created a pattern of failing to meet our healthy intentions for years or decades.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can\u2019t start tomorrow because the present is the only moment in which I have any power. One cheat sets up a cycle of postponement that won\u2019t get me to the finish line.  And a bump in the road may not be my fault, but reaching my goals is most definitely my responsibility.  If I don\u2019t work for it when the going gets tough, who will?  And when the going gets tough, humans reach for what\u2019s familiar and practiced – unless we make the effort to change the thoughts we are thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mindset is everything!<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Changing our thoughts takes effort, but it can make the difference between staying stuck and reaching our goals.  You don\u2019t need a coach to change your mindset, but coaching absolutely helps!  I know from my own experience and from my clients\u2019 experiences that coaching transforms lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But there are books you can read and online courses to take if you\u2019re not ready to invest in one-on-one coaching.  Here is a short list of my current favorites:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way<\/em> by Rick Carson<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies about Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be<\/em> by Rachel Hollis<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s Not Your Money: How to Live Fully from Divine Abundance<\/em> by Tosha Silver. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feng Shui Your Mind, Body, Spirit<\/a><\/em> by Jill Lebeau & Michelle Dwyer<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Freedom School<\/a><\/em> by Ana Verzone includes courses in drinking less, building confidence, mindset, stop overeating and so much more!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you think one-on-one coaching may be right for you,<\/strong> but you\u2019re not sure it’s an investment that you\u2019re ready to make, contact me to schedule a little chat!  You can ask any questions you have, I\u2019ll tell you a bit more about how coaching works, and we\u2019ll uncover your next best actions to move you toward the life that you\u2019re longing to live! Zero pressure. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want everyone to have a clear idea of how to get from where they are to where they want to be! <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

That’s why I like to include the Grow on!<\/strong><\/em> <\/strong>section. These questions help you coach yourself as you begin the process of growing more aware of what you want your life to be. That’s why I list resources for self-growth, like the ones above. These resources have helped me and my clients, so I know they can help you too!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grow on!<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

What was your last self-improvement goal? 
On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 is \u2018not at all\u2019 and 10 is \u2018highly\u2019<\/em>), how successful were you at reaching your goal? 
If you did not complete the goal, what was your reason? 
What self-improvement goal is currently calling your heart? 
Make a list of the obstacles that might stop you reaching your goal. 
Journal around what you will do when each of these obstacles appears! 
<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Go get it!  You GOT this.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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