For example when I feel grief, my body feels deeply weighted and lethargic. When I feel joy, my heart feels light, as if filled with helium, and I have a humming vibration along my skin. Self-doubt feels like my body is contracting inward away from the world, and confidence feels expansive, light, and powerful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Our emotions are simply vibrations that we feel in our body, and are part of our human experience. In and of themselves, these vibrations cannot harm us! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Emotions are vibrations that we experience as completely harmless physical sensations. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
So if the vibrations can’t harm us, why do so many people go to such extraordinary lengths to avoid what we perceive as negative emotions? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s what\u2019s happening if my lover leaves me and I eat a gallon of ice cream. I\u2019m trying to avoid feeling the pain of my emotions. Same thing with drugs and alcohol. People are drawn to using these substances to numb our \u2018hard\u2019 emotions, the sadness, frustration, anger, disappointment, fear, or worry that crop up in our lives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n And who would blame us? There are situations and circumstances in this lifetime where every one of us can relate to why THAT emotion might hurt too much to feel, and why someone might choose to numb the pain. It\u2019s sort of like if you break your leg, that HURTS. No one is going to bat an eye if you take some pain killers for that. So if someone is going through emotional pain, it\u2019s understandable that we might want some pain killers for that, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The broken leg eventually heals, our pain subsides, and our use of pain killers ceases. Emotional pain eventually heals, too but not until we allow ourselves to transform the pain, and transforming the pain requires allowing ourselves to FEEL the emotion. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is where it can get a bit tricky, because we feel the pain and want to numb it to avoid it, so we do (normal). <\/p>\n\n\n\n But if we do not stop numbing the emotional pain and allow ourselves to feel it, to move through it, we can get stuck in the cycle of continuously numbing that pain to not feel it, then feeling it and numbing it, feel the pain then numb the pain. Unlike the broken leg, I remember the first time my coach suggested this to me I thought she was mad. I had been avoiding hard emotions for decades with booze and sugar, and she wanted me to sit with those feelings?! The idea positively made my skin crawl!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Then she taught me the most amazing technique. I learned to objectively describe the emotion as the physical sensations I experienced in my body – without attaching my story to it, ![\"\"](\"https:\/\/cyndicombs.com\/coaching\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/DSC08903_tonemapped2-copy.jpg\")
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it\u2019s not going to heal until you allow yourself to feel your feelings. If we attempt to push our emotions away, they keep coming back. We cannot resist our emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\nIf we wish to get past our challenging emotions, we must allow the experience by being present with the emotion.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
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and without wallowing in the emotion. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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