{"id":6002,"date":"2021-10-28T14:22:45","date_gmt":"2021-10-28T21:22:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cyndicombs.com\/coaching\/?p=6002"},"modified":"2021-10-28T14:19:25","modified_gmt":"2021-10-28T21:19:25","slug":"be-selfish-in-service-of-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cyndicombs.com\/coaching\/2021\/10\/28\/be-selfish-in-service-of-others\/","title":{"rendered":"Be Selfish in Service of Others"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Most of my clients live to serve others.\u00a0 Nurses, parents, teachers, supervisors, business owners.\u00a0 All of these people have a lot of things they want and need to do, but doing what <strong><em>WE<\/em><\/strong> need or want is often at the bottom of our to-do list, AFTER all the stuff we do for others.\u00a0 <br>It\u2019s human nature!\u00a0 It\u2019s the way we have been conditioned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why do my workout when I can fold the laundry in service of the household, or cover a shift for a busy co-worker? 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