Another Fucking Golden Opportunity

2020 ~ What a shit show!

It’s time to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and put that beast in our rear view mirror.  But before we put this bitch to bed, let’s remember that each of the challenges presented to us is another fucking golden opportunity (AFGO*) to expand our awareness (LEARN something).  The more aware we become, the happier and more confident we feel, so we want to harvest these opportunities and not just run away as fast as the new calendar will carry us.

I challenge you to take stock of what happened for you this year.

Make a list of the golden fucking opportunities life handed you in 2020, and remind yourself what you have learned, what strengths you uncovered, and what energy you want to carry into 2021 with you.

2020 seemed like one long string of AFGOs. Am I right?

My partner got a cancer diagnosis.  It’s curable and not for one minute did I experience any fear of losing him because my intuition is powerful and told me I would not lose him.  However, I was unprepared for all the ways my life would change.  Had you asked me six months ago if my relationship were codependent I would have laughed at you.  I am FAR to independent for that shit.  Or so I thought.

As it turns out, I depend on him for FAR more than I realized or was willing to admit.  He does a million little things (that I appreciate IMMENSELY) that allow me my independence.  His innumerable contributions allow me the freedom to “single-handedly” run three businesses, stay active, eat healthy foods, get plenty of rest, live in a fairly neat home, and enjoy the companionship of the magnificent Captain Boscoe P. Jenkins who apparently does NOT walk, nor feed himself. Who knew?

AFGO for me in this was to move past some VERY limiting beliefs.

I had been telling myself, “Without him cooking for me, I don’t have time to eat healthy!”  That belief opens the door to fast food, allergy foods, and eating habits that deplete my energy. 

Due to the eating challenges presented by chemotherapy, we now have foods in the house that we do not normally buy.  The myth of “not enough time” allows me to choose fast & easy over lovingly-prepared & healthy.  If I am making a grilled cheese sammich because it sounds appetizing to him, why not save time and just eat one myself? (Because you are allergic to wheat and dairy, Cyndi!)  He needs more support right now and I am delighted to be able to support him!  So who has time to support me too?

But do I want my health to be dependent on him being here to cook nutritious meals for me?  Do I want my health to be dependent on what’s fast and easy?

Nope.  I sure don’t.  So even though the day is coming when he will be cooking healthy, nutritious, delicious, amazing meals again for us – right now, I need to have my own back.  So I have been spending less time blogging, and more time cooking for us.  I choose to make two different meals when needed, even if it means something else goes undone.

My new mantra for 2021?

I intend to align my energy with my own healthy intentions first and allow the rest to fall into place. I’m putting health first!

How about you?  If you feel like sharing the biggest challenge you transformed into opportunity, or your biggest gift from 2020, I would LOVE to hear about it! Leave it in the comments or email cyndicombs@gmail.com.

Grow on!

Make a list of all your fucking golden opportunities in 2020.
Then identify the gift in each AFGO!  
What did you learn about yourself?
How will you use those insights growing forward?

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*My appreciation to my coach, Jill Lebeau for the acronym AFGO or Another Fucking Golden Opportunity.