First and foremost, you are God. The energy animating our flesh is Divine Source energy, or what people like to call God.
Your core energy is Divine.
My core energy is Divine.
Their core energy is Divine.
Every one of us is an expression of the Divine Source energy that created everything in the Universe. We are absolutely perfect despite whatever flaws or shortcomings we think we perceive. When we begin with this understanding, it’s easy to see that no one is better than anyone. We are all equal, all One energy.
How other people think, and speak about me is NONE of my business because it has NOTHING to do with me.
What other people think of me, and how they treat me has NOTHING to do with me.
How other people think about me, what they say about me, and how they treat me has to do with only ONE thing, and it’s NOT me!
How other people think about me, what they say about me, and how they treat me has to do with only one thing: How in alignment, or out of alignment they are with their own core energy.
How in alignment, or out of alignment THEY are with THEIR own core energy. (Not my energy.) It has NOTHING to do with me.
Trying to figure out why they don’t like me, or why they treated me like that, or what I did “wrong” is a complete WASTE of energy! Trying to change their mind is also a huge waste of energy, and generally backfires because we feel defensive.
Does it feel good to be liked by others?
Absolutely!
Is it necessary for your wellbeing?
Not a chance.
If we live in such a way as to BE what someone else wants us to be, we are not our true authentic self. To BE the YOU that you came here to be, you must learn to listen to the guidance INSIDE of YOU. When we look outside for guidance, it’s complete chaos!
Why?
Have you ever tried to get EVERYBODY, or even a large group of people to agree on ANYTHING? Everyone has their own idea about what’s right or wrong, or effective, based ONLY on their own experience and viewpoint. They do NOT have a guide book with hard and fast rules that work for every life.
Diet as an example.
How much do people agree on what the perfect weight loss plan is?
Do you see that working for EVERYONE?
WHY follow a path that someone ELSE is excited and passionate about when you can choose to follow a path that excites YOU, and that YOU are passionate about? If we follow a path made of other people’s opinions, the magnificent fullness of who you came here to BE cannot be realized, and you are cheating the world out of the unique perspective, the individual viewpoint that is YOU.
This is the definition of giving away your power.
This does not mean we can’t live a life that serves others, or in service to others – as long as we CHOOSE it for ourselves. If you are living a life of service because someone else wants you to, FUCK that!
And we don’t want to choose service to others ABOVE serving our own needs! You are not an afterthought! You are the central character in your own story.
I worry that others are judging me!
This thought is a mirror in two ways.
1- You judge yourself harshly, so you see them judging you.
2- You are judging them to be judgers in the process.
No one is ever judging you as harshly as you judge yourself. If they do, cut them out of your life, or minimize time spent with them, or set healthy boundaries by telling them to stop it.
The more you love yourself, the less harshly you criticize yourself, the easier it will be to see them as less critical, and less judgemental.
While you are not giving a fuck about what people think, I would also LOVE for you to not give a fuck what people do!
Other people are not the boss of you.
You are also not the boss of them!
They get to choose what they think is right and best for them. When we try to choose for them, our energy becomes entangled.
Energy entanglements DRAIN us!
Think how much energy it takes to make decisions for yourself and run your own life. Do you REALLY have the energy to also do that for everyone you love, and strangers too?
If so, WHERE on earth did you find that rule book titled This is the ONE right way for everyone! by R.O. Gant?
HUGE energy drain, and…
This is the definition of taking away their power, and we drain our own power when we try.
Short of situations where someone is harming you or others, take a deep breath and let that shit go!