Regardless of our relationship status, each of us deserves to feel loved unconditionally.
Even when we have romance, it’s possible to feel less loved than we might like sometimes. The other person in the relationship is human after all. What if they forget Valentine’s Day, or your birthday? It more likely means they were focused on something else, rather than they don’t love you, but it’s normal to feel less than completely loved in those situations.
It feels amazing and wonderful to experience love and validation from the world around us, of course it does. We’ll take all of that we can get! But it’s also crucial to cultivate unconditional self-love.
When we deprive ourselves of a deep self-love (which is frequently the case for humans) we actually block ourselves from fully receiving all the love that is flowing to us. When we refuse to practice self-love, we unconsciously teach others that self-love is not worth practicing. When we practice the opposite of self-love, beating ourselves up, telling ourselves we are not enough, feeling shame about our bodies, guilt about our food, or questioning our own worthiness, then we increase stress to both mind and body, decrease our energy, weaken our immune system, accelerate disease processes, and feel disconnected from Spirit.
Cultivating deep self-love allows others to love us more deeply, and unconsciously allows others to love themselves more deeply. Cultivating deep self-love gives us more energy, allowing us to offer more energy to the people and projects we love. Cultivating deep self-love provides a sense of balance and stability when the world around us is in chaos. Cultivating deep self-love means our cup is always full to overflowing, so when we choose to serve others we do not deplete ourselves. Cultivating deep self-love boosts our immunity, and is the healthiest thing we can do for body, mind, and spirit.
So I invite each of you to become your own best Valentine!
NOT just on February 14, please. I invite you to be your own best Valentine every single day. Make sure that connecting with You becomes a priority, until it becomes a habit. Add time to your schedule each week to date yourself and use that time to connect with You, do something you enjoy, and charge your batteries. Use the list below as inspiration to create your own ever-changing list of at least ten to twelve things you enjoy doing alone. When the time you have selected arrives in your schedule, choose something off your list and enjoy!
Don’t put it off, or say you’ll do it later! How would you feel if your lover rescheduled a date? It would likely make us feel undervalued, or taken for granted! I know that’s how I would feel. Would we put off a date with someone we were truly in love with to do the laundry ,or scroll the internet, or work overtime? Not unless it was a true emergency! Right?
Don’t make yourself feel like an afterthought! Make yourself number one! Schedule a date to do something you love with You now, and show yourself how truly loved and appreciated you are! The BEST way to feel loved and well-cared for is to immerse ourselves in unconditional love consistently, every single day.
These ideas are NOT just for single people!
Don’t forget to turn off your cell phone so you can be totally present with You.
Ideas for dating your beautiful self include, but are in no way limited to:
- Watch sunrise/sunset at a local beach/park.
- Lie on a beach, or in your backyard and feel the sun on your skin.
- Take yourself to a feel-good movie.
- Visit a museum.
- Cook your favorite dish. Put flowers and candles on the table.
- Take a good book, your journal, or a favorite podcast to the park and spread a blanket in the grass.
- Create a romantic atmosphere in the bathroom and enjoy a steaming bath with Epsom salts, coconut oil, and lavender.
- Take yourself to a local cafe to be alone with your thoughts. Bring your journal.
- Get dressed up and take a dance class.
- Write a love letter to yourself.
- Take yourself to a fancy restaurant and read the love letter to yourself while you wait for your meal.
- Take a long walk at sunrise or sunset.
- In front of a mirror, look deeply into your own eyes, and make a list of everything you appreciate about yourself.
- Take a picnic somewhere pretty and revel in your own company.
- What’s your favorite thing to do? Add it to the list!